3 Reasons to START a New Relationship During COVID-19
As an Intimacy Expert for the past 20 yrs, I came across a curious ‘pre COVID-19’ study which claims that you should only see a person once a week, IN PERSON, when you start dating. I thought: “Jeez, that’s not a lot… but it’s TONS, compared to not being able to see them at ALL, right now!”
What are the benefits of NOT seeing someone in person, who you have started to date?
AUTHENTICITY: You get to see who they are under pressure, right out the gate. It’s pretty hard to pretend in the midst of a pandemic. You are welcomed to see if they’ve taken the opportunity to slow down and reflect on what really matters. You discover their communication skills as you talk on the phone and see each other on Zoom.
SEX: You’re invited to see if they still ‘turn you on’ when sex is ‘taken off the table’ and if they want to connect with you for your heart, soul and life’s mission. You are able to more deeply discern someone’s emotional health, discover their values and priorities and enjoy the newness of discovery without touch. It can help you see ‘money on’ dates and new lingerie! It invites you to stay balanced with your prior commitments, family, work, exercise or home projects… and builds anticipation of connecting in person when lockdown lifts.
INNER BALANCE: While #2 certainly identifies those only interested in a quick hook up, beware of those asking to see you naked on Zoom making dinner, who push your boundaries too far! Predators prey on insecure, needy, codependent people adversely affected by isolation… So be sure BEFORE you date that you’re dating from ‘full’ and not ‘empty’.
Date because you choose a life partner or someone to spend quality time with… not because you’re feeling desperately lonely or you may buy into lies, manipulations or fantasies that soothe your wounded heart yet will ultimately use you and hurt you.
Thus if you notice you ARE unable to shake the loneliness, depression, insecure feeling from being so isolated, I encourage you to take my Intimacy Blind-spot Assessment at www.AllanaPratt.com/quiz to see what’s blocking you from feeling more secure, confident, open and trusting of yourself so that you can deeply connect in a healthy relationship.
Bottom line, dating during quarantine sets you up for authentic meaningful connection by taking sex initially off the table. By seeing one’s true colors under stress and inspiring YOU to do your inner work, to balance your emotions so that you date from a centered mature place.
Next the key will be to keep your wits about you when the lockdown lifts and still maintain healthy boundaries, meaningful connection and vulnerable honest communication so that your intimate relationship thrives!
Remember, transparent dating leads to deep fulfillment with your ideal match – so become ‘The One’ to ‘Find The One’.
24 April, 2020
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.
Contact Allana directly at: www.allanapratt.com