The Balance In The Room

Terrorism, pollution, war, starvation, disease and heartbreak. We all imagine a better world. The human condition is indeed perilous. Meanwhile, deep inside we all know there exists another side to the story. The ThankGodi blog presents a wider perspective.

We explore the hidden order that exists beyond our individual beliefs and prejudices, beyond life’s pain and confusion. We help our readers to transcend their emotional biases, in order to tune into the omnipresent universal balance, in some of today’s most divisive issues. In honoring two sides of every issue, we can effectively grow together, communicate with one another and evolve the human experience...

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Multitasking is the Opposite of Mindfulness

    The ‘myth of multitasking’ is so common. It has even become part of job descriptions employers create, in order to find the right candidate for the job.  The truth is that multitasking is not efficient or desirable. In fact, it is the opposite!  Let’s examine this myth in more detail, why it is […]

Balance Your Emotions & Forgiveness Flows

    You may have experienced times when you’ve been hurt, or feel angry toward someone close to you. They may have said something that devastated you, or performed some behavior without thinking, that triggered feelings of frustration and anger within... And yet, you still hope to include them in your life. The wisest thing [...]

How to Develop Your Emotional Intelligence to Lead a Balanced Life

This past week I reacted emotionally to a situation that struck fear in my heart and I lashed out at someone in panic.  Yes, even I can get overly emotional sometimes.  The person on the receiving end of my fear became distant and I had to rethink how my reaction affected her.  In turn I […]

How to Tell Your Wife you Need More From Her in the Bedroom

  🤔 Question: My wife is incredibly impulsive everywhere, except in the bedroom. How can I get her to share that spontaneity with me between the sheets?   Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she shares advice on this ‘sensitive’ topic. 👇👇👇 You got this! 🤗 Learn more by taking my Intimacy […]

Blame Talk vs Conscious Loving Communication

  🤔 Question: I found out that my husband has been having an affair. But for religious purposes, my family does not believe in divorce. How do I continue my marriage to a man when he has laid in another woman’s bed?   Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she shares advice […]

How to Stop an Argument Before it Happens

  🤔 Question: What is the easiest way to break to your wife that you were having an affair, it’s over, and you want to work things out? I just can’t see a scenario of this conversation going well.   Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she shares what is the best […]

Crazy (Or Not So Crazy) Things People Do, When They Are Fired

  🤔 Question: My wife just lost her job and now she wants to have another baby. I say this with nothing but love but I don’t think she is in the right state of mind. What is the best way to navigate this conversation?   Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as […]

Greater Success with An Evening Routine

    Morning routines are quite popular.  Even I have one.  However, I find that my evening routine is what makes me more successful.  While others settle down and watch mind numbing TV after a long day’s work, I get more exhilaration, clarity and satisfaction out of my evening routine. Evening routines are great for […]


The effect has been devastating, overwhelming and has led to massive destructive, low self worth issues and lack of self empowerment. A lie that is so big that our soul feels the negative effects and most of us cannot find our way to fix, heal and transcend this lie. So, what is this huge lie […]

Is my wife cheating on me?

    🤔 Question: Coach Allana, I don’t trust my wife and I don’t know why. I guess I believe she is just too good to be true sometimes and,no one this perfect is 100% faithful. I have even tried to catch her cheating and thought about setting her up. I know it is wrong, […]

Dealing with ‘Difficult’ People with Self-Reflection, Tact and Love

    One thing that I have learned over the years, between dealing with work and my personal life, is that the Universe can certainly present one with many special challenges.  One of those particularly vexing situations is developing a sense of how to confidently deal with difficult people.   Whether it was dealing with family, […]

Add Balance to Your Life by Increasing Your Productivity

    There are only so many hours in a day. Being more productive means getting more out of the limited time we have available. Despite how productive you might already be, odds are you can enhance your productivity even more while balancing your life. Being more productive can lead to having more time available […]

Home Alone is Making me Crazy!

    🤔 Question: I am tired of being at home, working from home, and just being alone. This self-isolation is driving me crazy but the paranoia of defying it and just being free is equally strong. Do you have any solutions to help people who are aware of the dangers but just don’t care […]

I lied. I’m a Barista, not a Mogel. 

    🤔 Question: I met this woman and lied about who I was to impress her. Should I tell her the truth or just let her believe the lie so I can see where this goes. I lied about what I did for a living so she thinks I am some big success instead […]

Alleviating Modern Day Work Stress

    Who doesn’t have stress at work? Nowadays, it might even be that work stress has nothing to do with being “at work” but being home from the office, not having the personal interactions that you were used to at your place of work, not having the tools you had at your fingertips or […]

You Always Have Everything You Need Within

    I bet you are saying to yourself, “Yeah, right, I really don’t have everything I need! I am working 2 jobs, paying 2 mortgages, my body is in pain, some of my relationships suck and I want the world to be a happier, safer place.” You and many others are feeling this way. […]

Becoming a Minimalist – What’s the Hold Up?

    3 years ago, I downsized from a 3000 square foot home to a small apartment.  I had to clear out 15 years of “stuff” and it was a struggle.  Now I am moving in with my boyfriend and I need to downsize even more because we don’t need two of everything and then […]

What is foreplay? What isn’t foreplay?

      As an Intimacy Expert, people’s immediate curiosity tends to be whether I’m really a sex expert. A somatic sex therapist. A Tantrika. Can I teach them how to give better blow jobs, have bigger orgasms or stay erect longer? Well…. 😘😉 Growing up, I suppose I thought intimacy meant the same thing. […]

When It Rains It Pours

  When the New Year rolled around, I was all set. I had my goals outlined with step by step actions that I needed to take for the next 90 days before I officially retired from the corporate workforce and set out on my own business adventure. I had a good head cold, but I […]

Signs Someone’s Flirting With You Versus Just Being Nice 

     As an Intimacy Expert for the past 20 yrs… and a woman just like you who’s been through the ups and downs of marriage, divorce and dating… Here’s what I’ve found…   People flirt for different reasons. It’s whether they’re empty or full on the inside. It’s a subtle art to tell the […]

When Should You Date Again After a Breakup 

  It’s wise not to push away the pain of a breakup and attempt to mask the pain and fill the void in your heart with a rebound relationship. That’s a recipe for disaster.  However waiting too long to date again can lead to you building walls of emotional unavailability, making up stories and excuses […]

Keeping the Balance and Employee Motivation

    “Train people well enough so they can leave. Treat them well enough so they don’t want to.” ~ Richard Branson There’s no doubt that that poor employee performance can, and often does lead to severe losses for a company and adds to the stress and anxiety managers have to face. When a subordinate […]

How to effortlessly be charming

    Can you imagine how your life would become even more magical if you could improve your capacity to be charming?  But, trying too hard to be charming actually DESTROYS charm! 😲  True charm is about being yourself… Totally at peace with the good, the bad and the ugly.  Thus, the first key would […]

How to Deal with a Flirty Husband

  🤔 Question:  I am struggling with my wife’s decision to apply for a management position where I work. The thing is, my personality at work is different and I don’t think she would appreciate it. I have a tendency to flirt and banter with the women in the office. It is my place and […]

Keys to Eliminating Lockdown Depression

  What is the best way to handle depression when you can’t physically be around your support system? Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana, as she shares the Keys to Eliminating Lockdown Depression 👇👇👇 You got this! 🤗 Huge love, Allana ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜   22 July, 2020   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a […]

Relationship Rescue for ‘Re-Entry’ after Lockdown

  How do you repair a quarantine stressed relationship?  Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she shares Relationship Rescue for ‘Re-Entry’ after Lockdown.👇👇👇   You got this! 🤗 Huge love, Allana ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜   30 July, 2020   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who […]

Deal Breakers when Dating After Lockdown

  What happens when deep conversations reveal more than you wanted to know? Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana, as she sheds light on this subject. 👇👇👇   I have got your back! 🤗 Huge love, Allana ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜   9 August, 2020   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to […]

Husband Doesn’t Respect Wife’s New Business

He calls her business a hobby and says her ‘real job’ is taking care of their child. Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she sheds light on this predicament.  👇👇👇 I got your back! 🤗 Huge love, Allana ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜   30 August, 2020   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media […]

Should Husband’s New Job Mean I Have to Start Over?

  He got a new job in New York… Her life is in Florida… Should she stay or go? Join ThankGodi Blogger and Intimacy Coach, Allana Pratt, as she shares possible solutions. 👇👇👇 I’ve got your back. You got this! 🤗 Huge love, Allana, xoox  ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜   15 August, 2020   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt […]

Achieve Big Goals by Balancing Your Mind

    Do you have a desire to achieve a big goal?  There’s a science behind achieving big goals.  I’m not talking about losing 5 pounds or cleaning out the attic by the end of the month. What I mean when I say a “BIG GOAL” is more like losing 50 pounds or doubling your […]

3 Signs You’ve Found Your ‘Twin Flame’

  As an Intimacy Expert for 20 yrs, I am both a master of my craft and an ever evolving student. What I think many people refer to as ’Twin Flames’, is congruent with what the late Dr. Barbara Marx Hubbard coined as, ‘Whole Mate’ Relationships…. An evolution past the ‘Soul Mate’ stage of relationships. […]

Keeping Stress Levels Down When Life Gets Overwhelming

    Nothing can hold you back quite like stress.  Unfortunately, stressors are everywhere. Even a small amount can severely impact your ability to perform. Therefore, it’s important to learn how to deal with your stress effectively. This past week was crazy for me.  My boyfriend had surgery on Monday.  My plan was to stay […]

Lessons from Lockdown: Feel your Feelings

  “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller What did we learn from quarantine that we would be wise to keep applying?  🎯 FEEL: I believe the reason we have such an obese, drug abusing, workaholic, Facebook or […]

4 Ways to give ‘The forehead kiss’ 

    While it may sound simple, all actions can be boiled down to being either motivated by fear or inspired by love.     💋 Degrading: If someone is insecure and wants to look good, feel enough, appear superior or in control… their forehead kiss could feel degrading. If someone does this to you and […]

7 Steps to Greater Life Fulfillment 

  “There are many talented people who haven’t fulfilled their dreams because they over thought it, or they were too cautious, and were unwilling to make the leap of faith.” ~ James Cameron. Have you ever asked yourself what it means to be fulfilled? According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, ‘fulfillment’ means: To succeed in achieving […]

Lessons from Lockdown: Don’t Give Up… Pivot!

    “Pivoting is not the end of the disruption process, but the beginning of the next leg of your journey.” ~ Jay Samit What did we learn from quarantine that we would be wise to keep applying?    🎯 PIVOT: Few of us can hear ‘that’ word without recalling ‘Ross’, with the coach on ‘Friends’…  […]

The Secret Connection Between Stretching and Meditation

    “Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.” ~ Saint Francis de Sales. Today some friends and I are attending a Holiday Detox, VINYASA FLOW & YOGA NIDRA workshop. I’m so looking forward to this class this afternoon, which will incorporate yoga […]

What It Means If Your Partner Won’t Commit

     I’d say everyone who’s had their heart broken, been cheated on, neglected, abandoned, toyed with or used for their looks, money or connections… is hesitant to commit. Who wants their heart broken again? Not me!  And it’s totally possible to love someone, but NOT be willing to do the inner work to heal […]

Lessons from Lockdown: Remembering to be Grateful

    “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~ Robert Brault  What did we learn from quarantine that we would be wise to keep applying?   🎯  GRATITUDE: At first glance we’ve been taught to be grateful for the good stuff, the wins […]

Top 10 Tips for Enhancing Your Emotional and Mental Health

    “A desire to be in charge of our own lives, a need for control, is born in each of us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control.” ~ Robert Foster Bennett   Your current lifestyle may not be conducive to maintaining your emotional and mental health. […]

Lessons from Lockdown: Letting Go of Control

    “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~ Victor Frankl What did we learn from quarantine that we would be wise to keep applying?   🎯 CONTROL: The illusion of control is ‘bankrupt’. Life is inherently uncertain whether we like it or not. Control […]

The Magical Gate 

    Close the gate on unhealthy boundaries that you have established. OR Open the gate to new healthy boundaries, free yourself from the negativity of the ‘chained expectations’ and obligations.   It was a sweltering hot day, a humidex of +38 degrees delicious, but despite the intense heat, I knew I needed to get […]

3 Ways to Keep the ‘Honeymoon Glow’ Alive

  New relationships tend to be fueled by ‘honeymoon hormones’ and often fizzle out when you literally come down from the ‘high’. Suddenly, you realize that you’re dating your mother or father! Ha! 😱 I’m talking about a TRUE authentic and loving ‘honeymoon glow’. It’s a way of life that’s sustainable and real, not the […]

How to Balance Out What You Do With Your ‘Alone Time’…

“I restore myself when I’m alone.” ~ Marilyn Monroe  Alone time, I cherish mine and make sure I schedule at least one vacation a year dedicated to me. Whether it’s a full week meditation retreat, a spa weekend or a full day medicine walk which is a deep immersion into nature as part of my […]

5 Ways to Inspire Creativity

    Do you realize that you have infinite creativity available to you whenever you desire it?  I know many of us struggle with bouts of being stuck! Right? We have a deadline for some creative project and we sit staring at our paper or screen waiting for some genius of creativity to spring forth […]

Discover Inner Peace Through Equilibration

  “My faith helps me understand that circumstances don’t dictate my happiness, my inner peace.” ~ Denzel Washington The search for inner peace, is was what started me on my journey so many years ago. It was this search that brought me to where I am today with an understanding of the process of equilibration. […]

5 Ways to have a healthy relationship with your Mom

    After 20 yrs of intimacy coaching and being a student of the heart, equilibrium and intimacy… Our relationship with our Moms, the Divine Mother, Pachamama and Mother Gaia, is so fundamental for our fulfillment, sense of safety, approval and belonging! If we really looked hard, everyone’s mom is most likely a combination of […]

The Crazy Link Between Productivity and Joy   

      Have you been in quarantine lately? What did you accomplish today? What did you achieve yesterday?  Has being stuck inside increased your stress, anxiety, or depression?   You’re not alone! 🤗 Sitting around, being unproductive can certainly take a toll on your mental health and productivity. 😲 Think about what you did prior […]

Tips on how to calm yourself under pressure…

    “Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.” ~ Saint Francis de Sales.   This past week could have been viewed as chaotic for me. My granddaughter was born on Saturday. I was […]

Small Ways to Fix an Emotionally Suffocating Relationship

    Emotionally suffocating relationships are when one person is feeding off the other’s attention, affection, time, praise and energy with the following behavior… 🚧 Texting 10 times a day. 🚧 Wanting to know where you are at all times. 🚧 They’re often suspicious of your whereabouts. 🚧 They can’t be alone without needing to […]

Your Livelihood Spirit Balance… Your Choice if it’s Out of Whack…

        So yesterday in the office, a colleague of mine was complaining about how overworked he was telling me he hasn’t had a free weekend in over 2 months. That’s absolutely absurd. Of course the Mindset Transformation Coach in me kicked in… Management doesn’t force you to work extra time “unpaid”. Management isn’t going […]

What People Who Always Land Second Dates Do Differently

  Many people experience that it’s not easy to land a second date. 🤔 What do people who always land second dates do more often?  🤔 What do they do differently during and post-first date?  🤔 What can you do to increase your chances of getting a second date? Right out of the gate I […]


    It was late summer.  They start draining the lake that time of year in preparation for winter to reduce ice damage to the shorelines.  Time to pull the boat out of the water, clean it up and get it winterized. My youngest was going on an adventure with his father which my oldest […]

Achieving Goals While Avoiding Distractions

    “You can always find a distraction if you’re looking for one.” ~ Tom Kite Your goals are set.  You’re visualizing them through to fruition. Unfortunately, distractions can get in the way of progress!  Too often, even the slightest distraction ends up being the difference between achieving your goals and missing the mark. It’s […]

Your Body Communicates With You Through Sickness

  I used to be a functional medicine practitioner, my specialty is thyroid and autoimmune diseases. One of the reasons why I had very high success rates was because I helped my patients understand their sickness and what it was telling them. An autoimmune disease is turned on because of an emotional and/or physical trauma, […]

The Dreaded Phone Call…

    I was at work maybe 15 minutes.  My ex called to tell me that he had just dropped off our younger son at my place.   While on the office phone, my cell phone rings and it’s our oldest son. “Hey buddy, what’s up?”  “Mom, I’ve been in an accident.”  With a phone on […]

How to Get over Someone You Never Dated.

      Have you ever met someone who is devastated that someone didn’t like them back, that someone rejected their affections, that someone wouldn’t give them the time of day… yet they’re still talking about it? Weeks, months or even years after?  What’s wild about getting over someone you never dated, is that we […]

I Live On A One Way, Dead End Street!

    Years ago, I was in New York City during the Christmas Holiday — Typical New York with the hustle and bustle of city life.  People rushing to go to work, someone yelling because he was cut off by a car and another was on the street begging for money. As I thought about […]

Routines and Habits

  Routines and habits are essential to having consistency and balance in our life. I’ve been reevaluating mine this past week and have updated my morning routine.   Morning routines are quite common, and most people are pretty set in what they do when they wake up. Morning routines are great for getting the day started […]

Tomorrow I will Clean Up My Act!

  “I partied my butt off, pigged out, and drank myself under the table for my birthday. Man, I could not believe how horrible I felt… So I vowed to clean up my act. So I’m here to detox my body for a little bit but before I start, I’m going away to party with […]

Kindness changes people

  My STORY ABOUT KINDNESS… I had a beautiful opportunity to live out kindness in the grocery store. I was in line to check out at the grocery store when this man who was in front of me was trying to get his debit card to work to pay for his groceries….it kept declining. I […]

Learning to Appreciate Stress…

  Learning to appreciate stress, which is usually viewed negatively, can help balance your emotions.  Stress can actually have some surprising benefits. Let’s look at how we can consider stress from a different perspective.  Long-lasting stress and anxiety doesn’t serve anyone. However, there are some limited instances of short-term stress that can be beneficial.  Stress […]

How to Allure Him With Class as a Work of Art… Not as a Piece of Meat

    Allure is such a loaded word… the quality of being powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating… charm, tempt.   When we think of a baby being alluring… it’s innocent and adorable.  Yet when we think of a woman doing that… we often assume it’s laced with manipulation, using her sexuality as a commodity… taking […]

4 Relationship Sanity Secrets During Quarantine

  After being an Intimacy Expert for the past 20 yrs working with couples in conflict and the wounds of singles who have endured divorce… The key to long term intimacy comes down to respect.  It’s totally normal and natural not to agree on everything. It’s even OK not to value the same things… Yet […]

Co-Parenting as a Divorced Couple…

    Co-Parenting as a divorced couple can definitely add stress to the already challenging job of being a parent. Especially, when one parent wants to control almost every situation. It’s tough because your relationship has ended, but you still both have a responsibility to take care of your kids. This is why it’s crucial […]

She took me to her hotel room… Then kicked me out!

    First she invited me to stay with her at her hotel during a business trip but when we got into the lobby, she told me to get my own room. What the hell??   I’ve got your back. Huge love, Allana xoox   1 Sept, 2019   Biography Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is […]

Corona Consciousness – ‘Boiling Frogs’

  Officials in hazmat suits, sticking needles into a young child’s arm to test for the Coronavirus, conjure up horrific images from the movie ‘Contagion’ or ‘Outbreak’. Let’s face it… sudden contagious disease and the prospect of death is terrifying! Viruses are very real, and we’ve all been sick with one at some point in […]

Too strong? I’m a bitch. Too weak? I’m a wallflower.

  I wanted my dad’s love and attention. I wanted to feel safe, seen and understood. It didn’t go so well… Dad was an alcoholic. I became a people pleaser extraordinaire and didn’t know there was such a thing as personal growth until my first marriage was beyond the point of no return. Yet two […]

Shhh, don’t tell… Oh, the tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive.

    I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.  Keeping secrets can cause depression, stress and anxiety in the best of the best.  In a research report from Columbia Business School in May 2017, it’s stated that there are harmful personal effects just from thinking about secrets.  The authors state that; “It is a […]

A Dose of Nature is Just What the Doctor Ordered…

Modern life can leave us feeling stressed, lonely and depressed, but the solutions are sometimes surprisingly simple. A study completed in 2016 found that visiting a park for at least 30 minutes a week could significantly reduce the risk of depression.  Scientists in Australia found further evidence of what researchers have been saying for years. […]

How to deal with a-holes

This might not seem like the most enlightened question, yet it’s one I get a lot from members of my community. Especially with the coronavirus, people are scared and when we’re scared, we leave our heart, we’re triggered by our emotions, leave the intelligence of the prefrontal cortex that allow for abstract creative thinking and […]

Finding Balance

Noun: a state of equilibrium or equipoise; equal distribution of weight, amount, etc. How do you find balance within an unbalanced world? How do you stay focused on being in balance in a chaotic seemingly unstructured world? In today’s high speed, high pressure and high-stress world, it’s not just balances between work and family that’s […]

Teenagers, oh the Trials and Tribulations!

This summer I had my fill of teenage drama.  I heard about it all from my boys, nieces and nephews.  Who was dating whom that someone else liked.  Who got their hands on alcohol and learned what it was like to drink too much.  Who got caught on the security camera vandalizing the public house. […]

How do I approach women respectfully in a #MeToo world?

I applaud you for reaching out to desiring to respect women. Thank you.  And I applaud the women who have bravely spoken up in this Movement. There’s so much more to be done.  And I acknowledge the tide is beginning to shift.  Given what we focus on expands, let’s focus on solutions and a new […]

How the Media and Your Political Party Plan to Steal Your Vote – DON’T Let Them…

“Racist “Cheat“, “Liar”,  “Sexist”, “Hypocrite”, “Supremacist”…  Winning is ALL that matters… At ANY cost… Now, more than ever, the top strategic focus for today’s political parties are painting a narrative which ‘packages’ their opponent into an evil piece of shit, whilst portraying their candidate as the ‘hero’, taking them to the promised land. Why? Political […]

What is a Spiritual Gangster?

The Spiritual Gangster is someone making a statement to the world. That statement is a commitment of spirituality that does not fit within the traditional description of “spiritual” found in the western civilization. Yes, I’m spiritual, as a matter of fact, I love, pray or meditate, get in touch with a higher self, and  I tune into a divinity. I also kick ass and I  make no apology for it.

Surviving The Sinkhole

My life suddenly felt like a big sinkhole and I was hanging on the edge for dear life. There was a part of me wanting to let go and disappear into the abyss, while the other part seemed to be dangling on as if by a tiny hangnail. In a short time,  I had gone through a financial crisis, business challenges, health challenges and relationship turmoil.

The One For-Sure-Cure For Opiate Addiction

If you have been alive in the past century, it is highly likely that you have encountered the staggering statistics that surround opiates. Not only have the use of opiates devastated many lives, the abuse of them has caused death to celebrities and non-celebrities alike.

Why Rich People Are Healthier Than The Poor

The world’s richest investor, Warren Buffet became rich through investing in quality, stable companies in the long term and avoided any “get-rich-quick” schemes. He is still healthy and active at age 85. This tried and true method most of the rich use to get richer over the long term is equally as effective in building your health over the long term.

The Key Behind Every Successful Relationship

To me, work is often the scapegoat when it comes to challenges in a relationship when the real cause is often a lack of “communicated appreciation” of each other. Notice that it is not from a lack of appreciation, but the trouble brews in a relationship when this is not communicated. Here’s how this trouble commonly arises in a relationship…

I Love Him… And Now He’s Gone!

My client called me in absolute despair. The man she’d been living with for the past two years had told her he no longer wanted to be with her and he’d found someone else. She feels her whole world has collapsed; wakes up panicking in the night and says how incomplete she feels without him.

An Ever Evolving Consciousness

First, one must gain a recognition that there is simultaneous construction and destruction happening at all times.  This applies to your body, the world around you, and most importantly, it applies to your mind.  As your thoughts and ideas shift and change, so do your actions.  

Why You Should Work With Disease Instead of Fighting Against It

Having just nursed my eldest two children through a nasty stomach bug, I was awakened earlier than usual by sudden severe cramps in my stomach. It seemed that I now had to deal with this bug. As my day progressed, it was interesting to note that many well-intentioned people offered suggestions of all sorts of  medications and natural  remedies  for it. I declined because I had no intention of fighting this bug. I was going to work with it.

The Unhealthy Hypocrisy of Thin Shaming

In October 2014, Victoria Secret’s “Perfect Body” campaign sparked an uproar amidst accusations of promoting an unhealthy and unrealistic body image. But looking at the models in the advertising, all of them looked to be within the healthy BMI (basal metabolic index) range (18.5-25), although most would be at the lower end of that scale.

Kill The Monster When It’s Young – Part 1

Mental anguish, emotional despair and physical disease are on the uprise. More and more people are coming into my office with serious problems than ever before. They come in not just with complaints of physical pain and discomfort, but also with complaints that their lives are in turmoil–which of them is losing their home, whose teenager is in serious trouble, who has developed cancer, diabetes or cardiovascular problems, who’s working to death just trying to make ends meet, and the list goes on.

Kill The Monster When It’s Young – Part 2

In Part One I explained how your monsters or challenges all have a gift in them. Your perception of your past experiences will determine if you see them as a benefit or a detriment. I gave you three steps to discover the gift within your challenge and a simple action step to start immediately to […]

Kill The Monster When It’s Young – Part 3

In Part One I explained that within all of your monsters or challenges lies a gift and I gave you three steps with a simple action step to replace your old one. In Part Two, I expounded on this by showing you these challenges come from within you and do not happen to you. What […]

Our “Imperfect” World

Is it a perfect or imperfect world? Can a world with so many calamities possibly be perfect? If this world is already perfect, “why”  try and “change” a thing? If it is already perfect, “how” can you even possibly change a thing? Einstein shared to “look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything […]

Wholehearted Leaders: Our Hope For The Future

No matter where you are political, you likely agree that corporations are some of the most powerful entities on the planet. Their influence in our economic and political systems is enormous! For years, that was bad news. But the tides are turning. The good news is that global forces are requiring a new style of […]

Unrealistic Expectations in a Relationship

Jody was a stay-at-home mum and loved raising her children, organizing the home and everything to do with family, social and home-life. Her husband, on the other hand, was a successful businessman who often traveled and could be away for weeks at a time. Over the years, she felt they had drifted apart. Their communication […]

You’re Not Busy, You’re Just Procrastinating

Conversations at work or social gatherings often ring with cries of: “I’m so busy.” It’s as if we regard how busy we are, as some sort of ‘badge of honor’ in the delusion that ‘busyness’ somehow equals success. In fact, ‘busyness’ has also been labeled as the ‘Western Form of Laziness’ because it generally stems […]

How Getting Bullied Can Be Good For Children…

And the Younger The Better! It wasn’t unusual for the phone to ring at around dinner time. Thinking it was an opportunity for me to unload on an obtrusive telemarketer, I hurried to the phone. When I picked up the phone I could hear rapid breathing patterns of two young people and then I heard […]

Midlife & Aging Gracefully

We’ve been growing older since the day we were born! So why does it turn into a problem all of a sudden? Midlife is experienced as the most powerful time of life by those who are curious enough to discover the unexpected… Is that me? I resist my first impulse to delete the dreadful selfie. […]

Why Getting a Cold or Flu Can Mean That You’re Getting Healthier

As a health practitioner, I have lost count of the number of times that patient’s have shared about getting sick anytime that they slow down or go on vacation. While it was obvious to me that these people were in urgent need of some rest and relaxation, they were also hesitant about going on holidays […]

Thank God I Got Taken By A Heroin Dealer

I was cold: Shivering, actually as I walked into the bathroom of John Dewey High located on Coney Island, just 2 stops from Brighton Beach on the D train. I wasn’t wearing a coat this overcast February morning, just a dungaree jacket with all my patches and pins. That was my identity, how I repelled […]

Living Your Life on Purpose

Welcome to my inaugural blog post on! I look forward to sharing some insights gained from my personal experiences, my spiritual search, and many amazing guests on my business radio show, Quantum Business Insights. Since you are reading this column, my guess is that you are also a seeker. And this is a good […]

Thank God I Was A Heroin Addict

  “There is a crack in everything, that is how the light gets in.” – Leonard Cohen In 1980, when I was new to South Florida, I read an article in the Miami Herald about a new program in Fort Lauderdale. The article caught my attention because it featured interviews with two heroin-addicted alcoholics who […]

No Brain, No Pain

    While studying people who are experiencing phantom limb pain (pain in a limb they no longer have), neurophysiologists revealed that pain does not come from the parts of your body that you think is hurting. Pain comes from the brain! In actual fact, all pain is actually a creation of the brain. Now, […]

How Pain Makes Us Healthy

    Looking at the healthy side of pain might seem akin to visiting the dark side of the moon– you know it exists but no one wants to go there. For a while, I thought I must be going crazy, and many others were quick to agree, thinking that I was the only one […]

Does It Have To Hurt To Heal?

    I woke this morning from the worst night of my life. “Please let it all be just a bad dream,” I pleaded to myself as I opened my eyes after 2 hours of broken sleep. I turned my head to the right to see my 11-year-old daughter, Erika, sleeping between my wife and […]

Not A Happy Birthday Message After All

I began this blog with writing about his contribution to the international music industry … when suddenly, this whole blog took a 180-degree turn… In explanation, some of you might remember that I have for 10 years, received some amazing validations from my daughter Jen who died at 16, three years before my Dad. These […]

Using Pain To Your Advantage– Like An Olympic Gold Medalist

  When you watch the amazing feats of incredible athletes at the Rio Olympics it’s hard to comprehend that you have anything in common with any of them. At the same time, despite probably being one of the world’s worst swimmers I did keep my eye on Australian swimmer, Kyle Chalmers because we did grow […]

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