Is ‘Ghosting’ happening more or less during COVID-19 for Single Women?
Ghosting is a huge problem for my clients who are looking for love.
When someone ceases all communication or contact without warning and subsequently ignores all attempts to reach out or reconnect, it’s devastating. The unclosed loop keeps spinning. Self doubt can seem overwhelming and so debilitating that many give up on love.
Angie, a smart beautiful woman who wanted to be more successful with men and with clients was frustrated one day on our Group Coaching Calls that not only were guys ghosting her, even a new client that she was sure would move forward ghosted her too, just went AWOL.
After having great compassion about how frustrating and disappointing that must be, I reminded her that whenever a pattern occurs on the outside, it’s a projection of what’s going on, on the inside.
I invited her to inquire inside her heart with me.
Where was she ghosting herself? What was she avoiding facing in herself? What truth was revealing itself, yet she was ignoring it’s attempts to get her attention? Where was she even criticizing herself for these truths? Many people started to have audible ah-ha’s on the call.
This is one of the many ways I help clients find their blind-spots. And I walk my talk, I can’t see mine either so I always have 2-3 coaches of my own so that while I’m a master level coach, I never forget that I’m an eternal student of life.
Angie realized that she didn’t want any man or any client to know she felt stupid, not good enough, not truly worthy at the end of the day for lasting love and great success, that even if she accomplished love and success, ultimately it was a matter of time until she’d mess it up.
Thus, she was subconsciously attracting less than ideal dates AND prospects who would disappear before she risked being discovered as a fraud. She got to play the victim and blame others… All the while staying safe hiding insecurities.
Wow! Did that take bravery, humility and courage to acknowledge! 🙏 💝🙏
Being an Intimacy Coach is one of the most profound privileges that I could ever imagine, because I welcome my clients to sit in the fire and face what they haven’t been willing to face and feel what they haven’t been willing to feel… And yet, because I am committed to loving them unconditionally with zero judgment… The sanctuary of safety that I provide on these group calls, is literally the space of deep lasting transformation.
We did a longer 20 minute process using spiritual technology processes I’ve been trained in on the call. I invited everyone to go through their own version of this insecurity, while I took Angie through the process.
What transpired is, that I facilitated the healing of that part of her that was ashamed, wounded, hurt, afraid to show up and not be perfect. Instead of that wounded part sabotaging her personal and professional life, it was integrated into Presence, Choice and Grace.
Of course over the next few days and weeks, she quickly began to attract emotionally available men and solid ready to move forward clients who valued her because she was emotionally AVAILABLE to herself and valued her perfectly imperfect nature, unapologetically!
To me, shifting my mindset isn’t enough. We all KNOW better, but when the emotions trigger, we revert back to our subconscious behaviors.
Intimacy Blind-spots are the culprit… Yet, they’re also the portal through which you return ‘Home’ to your greatest Power, Freedom and Inner Peace.
I invite you to discover your Intimacy Blind-spot in my quick proven Assessment by visiting www.AllanaPratt.com/quiz.
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Great love, Allana xox
Written 6 May, 2020
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.
Contact Allana directly at: www.allanapratt.com