Small Ways to Fix an Emotionally Suffocating Relationship



Emotionally suffocating relationships are when one person is feeding off the other’s attention, affection, time, praise and energy with the following behavior…

🚧 Texting 10 times a day.

🚧 Wanting to know where you are at all times.

🚧 They’re often suspicious of your whereabouts.

🚧 They can’t be alone without needing to check in with you.

🚧 They desire to be your ‘favorite’ person.

🚧 The belief that YOU are the soul source of their energy, wellbeing and self worth.

This is a misunderstanding, of course…

You are a catalyst to them feeling more alive, centered, confident and worthy. Yet in actuality, all those capacities and energies lie within each of us and around each of us, at all times!

Whilst I may seem negative or lack optimism, I don’t think there’s much to do to ‘fix’ this. As the other person has to be willing to take ownership of the dynamic as well. Just one person putting down healthy boundaries, is usually met with resistance, blame, guilt trips or dismissal of the ‘request’.

Nonetheless, the person who is allowing the emotionally suffocating person to take their energy, should change.

First, here’s a doozy of questions my trained Intimacy Success Advisors take people through, in depth on our Intimacy Breakthrough calls. These questions will shift your reality… And the subsequent ‘exploration’ that my advisors take you through, can change your whole life trajectory for the better. Eliminating a blind-spot that has often caused decades of suffering!

🔐 What do you LOVE about them emotionally suffocating you?

🔐 What are you getting out of it?

🔐 Why do you love giving your power away to them?

🔐 What are you gaining from this dynamic? 

Gross, right?

If we slow down and stop blaming and rejecting – we will see that we are contributing to this dynamic, just as much as they are!

So that’s your ‘homework’ – Ask yourself: “What am I getting out of this that’s keeping the dynamic in place?’ 🤔

Next, I invite you to sit in the fire, to awaken healthy boundaries, to create a dynamic that works for you, by perhaps saying, ‘I love you and our friendship/connection. May I be direct? I am happy to respond once a day to your texts, so that I can balance my other commitments. Thank you for being so understanding.’

Or perhaps you could say: ‘Whilst I appreciate your concern of where I am all day, and I’m sure it’s not your intention, yet it’s actually pushing me away. Would you be so kind as to trust that I am safe and happy… and instead, wait until the evening or a few days until we connect again? Thank you.”

These deep questions and brave communications, will unlock the unhealthy dynamic and begin to create positive change! 🔥

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Huge, luscious love, 

Allana, xoxo


Written 7 December, 2019



Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.

Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.

This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.

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