How do I approach women respectfully in a #MeToo world?
I applaud you for reaching out to desiring to respect women. Thank you.
And I applaud the women who have bravely spoken up in this Movement.
There’s so much more to be done.
And I acknowledge the tide is beginning to shift.
Given what we focus on expands, let’s focus on solutions and a new empowering narrative, yes?
I encourage you not to resist the movement let women, don’t let it make you contract or take actions based on doing it ‘right’. Don’t let the Movement or anyTHING or anyONE be larger than your truth, your Presence, your You.
Choose Presence. Choose being You.
Choose honoring yourself and honoring women.
Conscious men in my community tell me that they don’t want to be dominant jerks, yet they feel emasculated and rejected into the friend zone when they are ‘nice guys’. I get it. That’s how I came up with the term, Noble Badass.
While I have a longer empowering in-depth definition in my complimentary How To Be A Noble Badass Training on my men’s site, a man who is a Noble Badass has gained wisdom from his failures, he stands balanced in Presence totally at choice yet dominating no one, he breathes with an open heart, unashamed of his sacred sexual nature, committed to living and giving his genius to uplift humanity, even when no one’s looking.
A popular video on my Youtube Channel speaks of ‘3 Ways To Be A Noble Badass’… and I’ve been asked to do a follow up video for men asking if the advice still stands given the Me Too Movement.
Yes it does 😉
More so now than ever.
- Be in your Body: Another way of saying this is, be present. Be out of your spinning thoughts. Be in your noble heart. Be where you just KNOW and act from TRUTH. A woman can feel a man’s shallow agenda, a fear based strategy, a surface desire. It’s offensive to our overall worth and scary to feel like a commodity. Yet the opposite is true… when you are in your body, heart, truth and presence, it feels safe, honoring, curious and open to possibilities.
- Penetrate her in 3 ways: Yes it’s a loaded verb… yet the idea is to see her essence with your eyes, feel her soul with your heart, and connect with her sacred sexuality with your pelvic energy letting her know you find her Beauty Itself as a gentleman would, as if she’s a work of art that awakens your badass nobility. Sexual energy isn’t just about copulation either… sexual energy can also be healing and tender, it can be creative about a new project, it can be protective and proving and yes, it can be naughty, sexy and wild. Yet without your heart present as well, it will feel slimy and she’ll feel like a piece of meat.
- Be Vulnerable: Vulnerability isn’t a weakness, it’s an act of great courage to lower your walls and share your transparent honest truth. On a first date don’t dump your divorce saga, yet over time, if you are authentically sad, disappointed or disheartened, and you trust from the past interactions that she’s unconditionally loving and non judgmental (not perfect, yet a conscious woman who takes responsibility for her life)… then be real, raw, truthful. You’re not asking to be fixed. And she need not fix you. Just be real together and let that be enough. Just make contact and rest together.
Know that being these 3 ways isn’t possible on top of charge, emotional triggers or past trauma. That’s like sprinkles on top of an ice-cream cone of shit. Be willing to do your inner work to the core.
Yet once you flatten the emotional charge, once you equilibrate the triggered polarities… it’s such a privilege to witness another with ease, it’s such a pleasure to no longer fear rejection and make heartfelt contact with another, it’s such a turn on just see and be seen with another. Intimacy at its finest.
And of course, it all starts with Intimacy with Self, yes? So within, as without. The inner always creates the outer.
I invite you to take the first step in learning how to be a noble badass in my complimentary training found at www.GetHerToSayYes.com
And thank you for being a rare, inspiring, impressive man who is willing to approach women respectfully and have a hot, healthy thriving intimate relationship over time.
Gratefully and deliciously, Allana xox
Written by Allana Pratt 13 Sept 2019
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.