When Should You Date Again After a Breakup
It’s wise not to push away the pain of a breakup and attempt to mask the pain and fill the void in your heart with a rebound relationship.
That’s a recipe for disaster.
However waiting too long to date again can lead to you building walls of emotional unavailability, making up stories and excuses that ALL MEN/WOMEN ARE BAD etc., or even making you give up on love altogether.
So how do you know when to date again?
After helping my clients heal from heartbreak as an Intimacy Expert for the past 20 yrs, I recommend dating again when you’ve integrated your painful lessons, grown wiser from the past relationship AND succeeded in finding peace in your alone time.
And how do you do this?
It’s a process and it takes time, energy, resources and commitment to your sweet self. And it takes bravery to realize the Truth of LIFE: Relationships aren’t these fairy tale perfect bubbles of bliss. Relationships are part support and part challenge, part pleasure and part pain.
Thus, challenges aren’t bad. Break ups aren’t bad. They’re FOR us, not against us. They are invitations to grow, evolve, heal and shine as our true selves. It’s how coal becomes a diamond. It’s how you become your best self.
A break up isn’t just releasing the partner, it’s a chance to release the thoughts, behaviors, subconscious beliefs and sabotaging patterns that cause drama and heartache in your life. AND it’s a chance to choose new beliefs, develop new character traits and engage in deeper more authentic communication with Self and Other. A breakup integrated fully is a guarantee to up level the quality of your next partner…
Yet, if you don’t process the lessons fully, it’s a guarantee to meet the same person again, just in a different body. 😉
I invite you to see your break up as a sacred time to reunite your mind and soul, to heal what got flushed up in this relationship, to be a better version of you… THEN date again and enjoy the process of attracting, dating and mating with an ever better version of your ideal partner.
There is no magic number of how long. Long enough that you’re not dating to fill the void of loneliness. Quick enough that you’re not hiding from life. This is a time where having a proven professional results producing compassion yet encouraging coach would be a wise choice to have as your partner on the journey. I can’t tell you how many wise men and women meet their ideal partners either IN my group coaching or inner circle programs or WHILE coaching in these programs. It’s a hub for inspiring and attracting WHOLE- mate connections… two whole people who have become the one they were seeking… and once they meet, the whole becomes greater than the sum of the parts… igniting the best in one another.
Pure magic 🤗
A great coach will help you learn to trust yourself and your readiness so that you’ll find the sweet spot of when to date again. A great coaching program will help you acknowledge that you’re perfectly imperfect and always will be… Breakups are a fertile field of growth, potent evolution AND it will help you do your work so you don’t repeat the same pattern with the next person.
The culprit for repeating the same pattern break up after break up is always a blind-spot. If you KNEW what you were doing wrong, of course you wouldn’t do it again, yes?
Thus, I’ve created a simple quick yet potent Intimacy Blind-spot Assessment to help you discover what’s going on so you can break through and attract an ideal partner and enjoy a thriving intimate relationship.
I invite you to take your assessment now at www.AllanaPratt.com/quiz.
I’ve got your back.
You got this! 🤗
Allana, xoox ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
1 August, 2020
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.
Contact Allana directly at: www.AllanaPratt.com