3 Ways to Keep the ‘Honeymoon Glow’ Alive
New relationships tend to be fueled by ‘honeymoon hormones’ and often fizzle out when you literally come down from the ‘high’. Suddenly, you realize that you’re dating your mother or father! Ha! 😱
I’m talking about a TRUE authentic and loving ‘honeymoon glow’. It’s a way of life that’s sustainable and real, not the phase when wearing rose colored glasses unwilling. to ignore the red flags of actuality! 💘💘💘
Here are small, but ‘mighty’ things you can do to pace yourself to give your new relationship the best chance of turning into something meaningful. Or, to nourish and ‘awaken’ a long term relationship that’s gone stale…
💝 Stay Present in the Moment…
Don’t go off thinking about moving in together, marriage or kids right away. Yes, talk about your relationship goals, values and dreams. Yet instead focus on savoring the moment, noticing how you feel with them, is your life uplifted because of them, are you more present, alive, confident, authentic in all areas of your life? What do your best friends say about who you’re BEING now that they’re in your life?
If you’re in a long term relationship whose traditional honeymoon phase has fizzled… take the time to identify what’s missing… touch just because, deep connection and listening, spontaneous adventures. See where you may even be giving or receiving this dynamic in other areas of your life… that it’s still alive and you could choose to give or share this with your partner. Or if it’s only happening in your mind… then you could choose to bring back that authentic expression now.
💝 Watch Discerningly with an Open Heart…
People always tell you who they are by their actions more than their words, often right out of the gate, yet we’re blinded by wanting them to BE who we want them to BE so we ignore the actuality of what’s going on. Are they in integrity with their commitments or do they make excuses? Do they take full responsibility for their life or do they blame? How do they speak to waiters? When getting cut off in traffic? Talking about exes? Have they grown from past experiences and can you honor, praise and appreciate them daily for their growth and conscious evolution?
If you’re in a long term relationship whose traditional honeymoon phase has waned…you may have fallen into expectations or assumptions or conclusions about your partner. And this point of view will only allow you to see what you’re looking for. What if for the week you chose to be on the watch for what a great listener they are, or how kind they are, or how bold they are? Betcha you’ll find it. Then praise them for that… and watch it come alive again in both of your lives.
💝 Listen Deeply from Inner Harmony…
Can you find your inner ‘happy place’ of gratitude and empathy first with you and then with them? Do you connect first, with your ‘Little You’ inside your heart, before you connect with them? Can you feel your feet on the floor and take a big breath before you call them or walk into a restaurant to meet them? This is our responsibility to come from the highest vibration we can when interacting with our new beloved!
This way you’ll be coming from coherence and alignment when sharing vulnerably, not neediness. This gives you a better chance of feeling seen and heard because your vibration is one of truth not blame or victim energy. Then you’ll truly be able to discover if they have the capacity to listen or do they cut you off, get defensive or try to fix you? Do they open up with you more as the relationship deepens and trust grows or does it stay shallow or on the surface?
If you’re in a long term relationship whose traditional ‘honeymoon phase’ has gotten stale…
🤔 Do you take the time to be your best self when you communicate with your partner?
🤔 What if you could listen with compassion rather than pity?
🤔 What if you could be curious rather than conclude what they’re going to say?
🤔 What if you knew inside your heart ‘They Got This’! Rather than see them as broken?
OMG, this shift in point of view is literally FELT by the other person. Because the heart KNOWS, FEELS and picks up on energy, far more quickly, deeply, efficiently and powerfully than the mind! 😲
These are high level ways of ‘being’ and communicating, for people truly up to having a thriving intimate relationship…
🔥 Stay curious, not judgmental.
🔥 Stay grateful, not resistant.
🔥 Stay open, not closed.
🔥 Value yourself and bring your best to the relationship.
🔥 Feed it, as you would a precious new plant.
🔥 Trust yourself.
🔥 Know what you know.
🔥 And enjoy the process.
Way easier said than done, yes? Its’ way easier to forget, than to remember when you get scared or they piss you off, yes?
That’s why I have 3 coaches. That’s why my coaching practice is full. Everyone up to living their best life and creating lasting results need a tribe, a team, a structure for breaking through blind-spots to create results and have the actual inner and outer reality we choose.
Thus if my 20 years of breaking through intimacy blind-spots can contribute to you finding, creating and keeping a thriving relationship with yourself, family, friends and your beloved… and that’s a priority for you now… we would love to support you. Discover your Intimacy Blind-spot today at www.AllanaPratt.com.
Intimacy is an inside job.
We honor your heart and have your back. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Huge blessings, Allana xoxo
Written on 10 January, 2020
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.
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