Lessons from Lockdown: Remembering to be Grateful
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~ Robert Brault
What did we learn from quarantine that we would be wise to keep applying?
At first glance we’ve been taught to be grateful for the good stuff, the wins and goals achieved. That’s Gratitude 101. Graduate School Gratitude is when you can be grateful for the lessons, the losses, the learnings. Thus we mature spiritually and can hold both appreciation for what we have and heartbreak for what we’ve lost at the same time.
The beauty of opening your heart wide enough to say thank you for the support and the challenges is that you get off the addictive rollercoaster resisting pain and clamoring for pleasure. You become a YES to all of life, not just the glittery parts. This also protects you in that people can manipulate you with a shiny carrot. You stay discerning, aware and open.
My client Karen was a server and her restaurant closed down during lockdown. She decided to visit her parents as did her sister. Initially being together during a pandemic felt safe yet before long everyone got on each other’s nerves. Karen didn’t feel heard by her parents who harped on her to just get another kind of job. She felt judged by her sister who seemed more accomplished. She didn’t feel grateful for much.
After acknowledging her feelings as completely valid and understandable, I inquired if there were gifts in the challenges she could be grateful for? If she was grateful for her parents harping… could a new point of view see it as concern, care, curiosity and support? Karen bravely took this on and decided to gratefully ask her parents what they thought she ought to do, what superpowers they acknowledged about her, what insights they had into her genius and talents. The conversation was epic!
With her sister and I asked her if she could be grateful for her sister’s inspiration of accomplishing a lot versus competition, that just made her feel unworthy. She asked her sister what her secrets were to accomplishment, and learned a great deal about accountability, consistency, momentum and the power of a community. Karen feels closer to her family than ever before, as if they are wind in her wings not anchors holding her back.
Keep your heart open in the face of anything, discover the gift in the challenge. Ask for help, get a coach or join a personal growth community. Practice seeing the lesson in a seemingly ‘negative’ situation. Be curious about how, even this life circumstance is benefitting you. Keep a journal by your bed.
Blind-spots are always in the way of seeing the gift. They keep us stuck feeling like a victim or blaming people or circumstance. However once we discover them, we find the true core reason for our suffering… and we can change it and be free!
Discover your blind-spot at www.AllanaPratt.com/quiz by taking our complimentary Intimacy Blind-spot Assessment.
Freedom is right around the corner!
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” ~ Epictetus
Gratefully and deliciously,
Allana xox ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Written on 28 June, 2020
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship.
Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as a Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana supports non profits like ‘Rise of the Butterfly’ to end human trafficking while offering private coaching and retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.
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