Shhh, don’t tell… Oh, the tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive.
I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. Keeping secrets can cause depression, stress and anxiety in the best of the best. In a research report from Columbia Business School in May 2017, it’s stated that there are harmful personal effects just from thinking about secrets. The authors state that; “It is a common tendency for people to mentally revisit their past transgressions, which leads to a lower sense of well-being or unhappiness. This is because secrets serve as a reminder that individuals are masking part of themselves, which leads them to feel inauthentic. This cycle can hurt or destroy relationships and negatively impact our overall health.”
Some can view secrets as a bad thing.
However, does anyone really want to know the whole truth and nothing but the truth all the time? How will this secret impact the other person? How will holding on to this secret impact one’s self? Can we appreciate both sides of how and who this will affect?
A friend of mine once confided in me about how she didn’t want to tell her boyfriend about a visit she had with her ex. She felt it was harmless enough as they were just meeting to exchange some personal belongings. I expressed my opinion (yes everyone has one) that if it were indeed harmless, why hide it? She told me that her new boyfriend really didn’t like her ex and that he would really be upset by her visiting with him. He thought the items could be mailed or replaced and that she should just cut her ties and call it a day. Her thought, why upset him? From the outside looking in, I can appreciate both sides. Ugh, but what a dilemma… and oh the stress being added, by not telling the truth!
When it comes down to it, how we balance our emotions is key. Expressing gratitude and appreciation for both sides of the situation can help alleviate the stress that builds when we hide certain information from others.
Love and Light to you!
Written by Dawn-Marie on 1 Sept 2019
Dawn-Marie P. Dalsass, President of Livelihood Spirit Balance is a Stress Management Maven. She’s a Stress and Anxiety Expert for Middle Managers. She started her career in Corporate America while she was in high school and worked her way up the ranks finding herself in middle to upper management for most of her corporate career. She loved what she did but along the way she battled stress, anxiety and depression. When work and life were more than she could handle she planned her suicide in detail. Fortunately, she didn’t go through with it when she saw her 2 little boys on her way to get a knife with a plan to end it all. It was in that moment that she vowed to pull herself together and begin a new journey.
In 2015 she started her own business called Life Coach DM. After several years of working with clients, she realized that the majority of her clients were in middle management just like she was. She had helped most go from being stressed, anxious and / or depressed to being more balanced, aware and dynamic while guiding them on their own journey to achieve life goals including work life balance.
Dawn-Marie has since become a Certified Nature & Forest Therapy Guide and teaches individuals how they too can annihilate the stress, anxiety and depression (aka S.A.D) that middle managers and working parents can face through a process called equilibration (the balancing of the mind and emotions) along with the healing benefits a deep connection to nature (both indoors and out) can bring to become fully balanced, aware and dynamic (aka B.A.D).
Through her own practice, Dawn-Marie discovered what she calls Livelihood Spirit Balance where how one lives their life is in alignment with their authentic self, their B.A.D Ass-self. With Livelihood Spirit Balance, Work Life Balance and everything else just falls into place.
Based on her years of work and client success stories, Dawn-Marie changed her business name to Livelihood Spirit Balance to align with her teachings, mission, vision and purpose.
Dawn-Marie offers online courses, personal and corporate development coaching, workshops and seminars. As the owner of Total Convalescence – Nature & Forest Therapy she also offers public and private Nature & Forest Therapy Walks.
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