The Dreaded Phone Call…



I was at work maybe 15 minutes.  My ex called to tell me that he had just dropped off our younger son at my place.  

While on the office phone, my cell phone rings and it’s our oldest son. “Hey buddy, what’s up?” 

“Mom, I’ve been in an accident.”  With a phone on each ear the conversation continues. 

Me: “Are you OK? Where are you?”
Son: “I’m OK.  I don’t know. The car is totaled, the airbags went off, the car is full of smoke.  I was headed to work on my way to the Northern Pkwy”
Me: “Alright, you’re OK.  You’re on South Oyster Bay Rd.  What stores are you near?”
Ex: “I’m on South Oyster Bay Rd. now.”
Son: “Near the auto parts store and Dunkin Donuts.”
Me: “There isn’t a Dunkin Donuts on that road. Use your cell phone and send your dad and I your location.”
Me: “You’re on Old Country Rd.  I’ll be there in 10 min.”
Ex: “Headed that way now.”

I texted my boss and ran out the door.  

Why the hell was he on that road?  Maybe avoiding heavier traffic on the main roads?  He didn’t know where he was, is he really ok? What the heck really happened?  Can you imagine the stress levels spiking here?

I was actually able to keep my cool.  He was OK.  He was able to call me. No need for hysterics.  Even if it were worse, what would getting hysterical do to help the situation?  I arrived at the scene just after my ex.  He wasn’t happy in the least.  Already lecturing our son.  

My son was swearing he wasn’t on the phone, didn’t have the radio on, not playing with the heat, paying full attention and in the right lane just like his father always tells him to be.  He claimed the car in front of him stopped short and he slammed on the breaks.  With that he managed to plow into the car in front of him.  His car was totaled.  The other car with a family of 4, including 2 small boys maybe around 5 and 7 in age, had their rear window smashed.  Everyone was shaken with no visible injuries.  Everyone was walking around.

As a mother, I could have freaked out. Insurance claims, lawsuits and whiplash injuries now loom.  

However, keeping calm and balanced in my thoughts helped to get through this challenging situation.

Everyone was ok.  Cars and windows are replaceable.  

Love and light and understanding the other mother’s pain and concern for her boys. 

Knowing that my 2 boys were that age once and realizing that if that were me, I would understand that my boys would one day be teenagers and new drivers as well.  Understanding and appreciating my ex’s concern and stress about the damage to the car.  

Appreciating that this was a teaching moment for my son.  

Keeping the appreciation for this challenging situation, helped to keep my emotions in check and my mindset balanced.

It’s amazing how a challenging situation can be handled with ease when you know how to look at the issues from all angles and appreciate every aspect.  

Love and Light to you, my friends.



Written on 13 September, 2019



Dawn-Marie P. Dalsass, President of  Livelihood Spirit Balance is a Stress Management Maven. She’s a Stress and Anxiety Expert for Middle Managers. She started her career in Corporate America while she was in high school and worked her way up the ranks finding herself in middle to upper management for most of her corporate career. She loved what she did but along the way she battled stress, anxiety and depression. When work and life were more than she could handle she planned her suicide in detail. Fortunately, she didn’t go through with it when she saw her 2 little boys on her way to get a knife with a plan to end it all. It was in that moment that she vowed to pull herself together and begin a new journey.

In 2015 she started her own business called Life Coach DM. After several years of working with clients, she realized that the majority of her clients were in middle management just like she was. She had helped most go from being stressed, anxious and / or depressed to being more balanced, aware and dynamic while guiding them on their own journey to achieve life goals including work life balance.

Dawn-Marie has since become a Certified Nature & Forest Therapy Guide and teaches individuals how they too can annihilate the stress, anxiety and depression (aka S.A.D) that middle managers and working parents can face through a process called equilibration (the balancing of the mind and emotions) along with the healing benefits a deep connection to nature (both indoors and out) can bring to become fully balanced, aware and dynamic (aka B.A.D).

Through her own practice, Dawn-Marie discovered what she calls Livelihood Spirit Balance where how one lives their life is in alignment with their authentic self, their B.A.D Ass-self. With Livelihood Spirit Balance, Work Life Balance and everything else just falls into place.

Based on her years of work and client success stories, Dawn-Marie changed her business name to Livelihood Spirit Balance to align with her teachings, mission, vision and purpose.

Dawn-Marie offers online courses, personal and corporate development coaching, workshops and seminars. As the owner of  Total Convalescence – Nature & Forest Therapy she also offers public and private Nature & Forest Therapy Walks.

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