Equilibration

  • Is my wife cheating on me?

        🤔 Question: Coach Allana, I don’t trust my wife and I don’t know why. I guess I believe she is just too good to be true sometimes and,no one this perfect is 100% faithful. I have even tried to catch her cheating and thought about setting her up. I know it is wrong, […]

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  • Dealing with ‘Difficult’ People with Self-Reflection, Tact and Love

        One thing that I have learned over the years, between dealing with work and my personal life, is that the Universe can certainly present one with many special challenges.  One of those particularly vexing situations is developing a sense of how to confidently deal with difficult people.   Whether it was dealing with family, […]

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  • Add Balance to Your Life by Increasing Your Productivity

        There are only so many hours in a day. Being more productive means getting more out of the limited time we have available. Despite how productive you might already be, odds are you can enhance your productivity even more while balancing your life. Being more productive can lead to having more time available […]

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  • What is Covid Virtual Dating?

        🤔 Question: I have heard a lot of people have turned to virtual dating. Can you explain this more? What does it entail?    ✅ Answer: What a phenomenal question. Most people these days either meet online or are introduced by a friend via email or text. I consider that virtual dating. You […]

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  • Home Alone is Making me Crazy!

        🤔 Question: I am tired of being at home, working from home, and just being alone. This self-isolation is driving me crazy but the paranoia of defying it and just being free is equally strong. Do you have any solutions to help people who are aware of the dangers but just don’t care […]

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  • I lied. I’m a Barista, not a Mogel. 

        🤔 Question: I met this woman and lied about who I was to impress her. Should I tell her the truth or just let her believe the lie so I can see where this goes. I lied about what I did for a living so she thinks I am some big success instead […]

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  • You Always Have Everything You Need Within

        I bet you are saying to yourself, “Yeah, right, I really don’t have everything I need! I am working 2 jobs, paying 2 mortgages, my body is in pain, some of my relationships suck and I want the world to be a happier, safer place.” You and many others are feeling this way. […]

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  • When It Rains It Pours

      When the New Year rolled around, I was all set. I had my goals outlined with step by step actions that I needed to take for the next 90 days before I officially retired from the corporate workforce and set out on my own business adventure. I had a good head cold, but I […]

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  • Signs Someone’s Flirting With You Versus Just Being Nice 

         As an Intimacy Expert for the past 20 yrs… and a woman just like you who’s been through the ups and downs of marriage, divorce and dating… Here’s what I’ve found…   People flirt for different reasons. It’s whether they’re empty or full on the inside. It’s a subtle art to tell the […]

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  • When Should You Date Again After a Breakup 

      It’s wise not to push away the pain of a breakup and attempt to mask the pain and fill the void in your heart with a rebound relationship. That’s a recipe for disaster.  However waiting too long to date again can lead to you building walls of emotional unavailability, making up stories and excuses […]

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