The Key Behind Every Successful Relationship

  • Is my wife cheating on me?

        🤔 Question: Coach Allana, I don’t trust my wife and I don’t know why. I guess I believe she is just too good to be true sometimes and,no one this perfect is 100% faithful. I have even tried to catch her cheating and thought about setting her up. I know it is wrong, […]

    Read More
  • I lied. I’m a Barista, not a Mogel. 

        🤔 Question: I met this woman and lied about who I was to impress her. Should I tell her the truth or just let her believe the lie so I can see where this goes. I lied about what I did for a living so she thinks I am some big success instead […]

    Read More
  • Too strong? I’m a bitch. Too weak? I’m a wallflower.

      I wanted my dad’s love and attention. I wanted to feel safe, seen and understood. It didn’t go so well… Dad was an alcoholic. I became a people pleaser extraordinaire and didn’t know there was such a thing as personal growth until my first marriage was beyond the point of no return. Yet two […]

    Read More
  • How to deal with a-holes

    This might not seem like the most enlightened question, yet it’s one I get a lot from members of my community. Especially with the coronavirus, people are scared and when we’re scared, we leave our heart, we’re triggered by our emotions, leave the intelligence of the prefrontal cortex that allow for abstract creative thinking and […]

    Read More
  • The Key Behind Every Successful Relationship

    To me, work is often the scapegoat when it comes to challenges in a relationship when the real cause is often a lack of “communicated appreciation” of each other. Notice that it is not from a lack of appreciation, but the trouble brews in a relationship when this is not communicated. Here’s how this trouble commonly arises in a relationship…

    Read More
  • I Love Him… And Now He’s Gone!

    My client called me in absolute despair. The man she’d been living with for the past two years had told her he no longer wanted to be with her and he’d found someone else. She feels her whole world has collapsed; wakes up panicking in the night and says how incomplete she feels without him.

    Read More