Self Development Blogs

  • Is my wife cheating on me?

        🤔 Question: Coach Allana, I don’t trust my wife and I don’t know why. I guess I believe she is just too good to be true sometimes and,no one this perfect is 100% faithful. I have even tried to catch her cheating and thought about setting her up. I know it is wrong, […]

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  • Dealing with ‘Difficult’ People with Self-Reflection, Tact and Love

        One thing that I have learned over the years, between dealing with work and my personal life, is that the Universe can certainly present one with many special challenges.  One of those particularly vexing situations is developing a sense of how to confidently deal with difficult people.   Whether it was dealing with family, […]

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  • Add Balance to Your Life by Increasing Your Productivity

        There are only so many hours in a day. Being more productive means getting more out of the limited time we have available. Despite how productive you might already be, odds are you can enhance your productivity even more while balancing your life. Being more productive can lead to having more time available […]

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  • What is Covid Virtual Dating?

        🤔 Question: I have heard a lot of people have turned to virtual dating. Can you explain this more? What does it entail?    ✅ Answer: What a phenomenal question. Most people these days either meet online or are introduced by a friend via email or text. I consider that virtual dating. You […]

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  • What Would Happen if Everyone Was Less Defensive?

      Things seem to have turned upside down here in the United States lately.  After COVID-19 began to fade from the news, riots broke out all over the country.  Many are rehashing the past which is never a good thing because there is no momentum to move forward in a dynamic way.  Others are by […]

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  • I lied. I’m a Barista, not a Mogel. 

        🤔 Question: I met this woman and lied about who I was to impress her. Should I tell her the truth or just let her believe the lie so I can see where this goes. I lied about what I did for a living so she thinks I am some big success instead […]

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  • Alleviating Modern Day Work Stress

        Who doesn’t have stress at work? Nowadays, it might even be that work stress has nothing to do with being “at work” but being home from the office, not having the personal interactions that you were used to at your place of work, not having the tools you had at your fingertips or […]

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  • Becoming a Minimalist – What’s the Hold Up?

        3 years ago, I downsized from a 3000 square foot home to a small apartment.  I had to clear out 15 years of “stuff” and it was a struggle.  Now I am moving in with my boyfriend and I need to downsize even more because we don’t need two of everything and then […]

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  • What is foreplay? What isn’t foreplay?

          As an Intimacy Expert, people’s immediate curiosity tends to be whether I’m really a sex expert. A somatic sex therapist. A Tantrika. Can I teach them how to give better blow jobs, have bigger orgasms or stay erect longer? Well…. 😘😉 Growing up, I suppose I thought intimacy meant the same thing. […]

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  • How to Deal with a Flirty Husband

      🤔 Question:  I am struggling with my wife’s decision to apply for a management position where I work. The thing is, my personality at work is different and I don’t think she would appreciate it. I have a tendency to flirt and banter with the women in the office. It is my place and […]

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